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💬 The Misconception

It’s a question that keeps popping up — often whispered, sometimes thrown like an accusation:

“If a man is attracted to a trans woman… isn’t he gay?”

The short answer? No. Not at all.
This assumption is built on outdated and false ideas about gender and sexuality. Let’s break it down clearly.

🧠 What Sexual Orientation Really Means

Sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to, based on that person’s gender identity — not what’s written on their birth certificate or what body they were born with.

So:

• If a man is attracted to women (cis or trans), he’s straight.

• If a man is attracted to men (cis or trans), he’s gay.

• If someone is attracted to multiple gender identities, they might identify as bi, pan, or queer.

A trans woman is a woman. Full stop. Being attracted to her is being attracted to womanhood — not manhood.

🚫 Why People Still Get It Wrong

Many people are stuck in old, biological essentialist thinking — believing that gender is determined only by anatomy. They say things like, “But she was born a man.”
That’s not just inaccurate — it’s disrespectful.

Gender identity is who someone is, not what’s between their legs.

💘 The Truth About Men Who Love Trans Women

There are countless men who are open about their attraction to trans women. Some identify as:

• Straight, because they are attracted to femininity.

• Transamorous or Trans-attracted, to describe this specifically.

• Pansexual, because they’re open to people across the gender spectrum.

It’s not “gay.” It’s attraction to women — and it’s perfectly valid.

⚖️ The Stigma and Silence

Many men hide their attraction to trans women because they fear ridicule or being labeled as gay. This shame culture has caused real harm, both to them and to trans women who deserve open, honest love.

But let’s be real:
Men who love trans women are not confused. Society is.