Secrets We’ve Kept: When Being Out Wasn’t an Option

We’ve all had moments in life where being fully ourselves wasn’t safe, welcome, or even possible. Maybe it was with family, friends, at school, at work, or in society at large. Those times can feel isolating, scary, or confusing—but they also shape who we become.

In this thread, let’s open up about the times we had to hide our identity. What was it like to live in secrecy or partial secrecy? How did it affect your relationships, your confidence, or the way you see yourself? What did you learn from those experiences, and how have they influenced who you are today?

Feel free to share personal stories, lessons, regrets, or reflections—whether serious, funny, or surprising. You can even share anonymously if that feels safer. The goal is to create a space for honesty, empathy, and connection, where every story adds to the understanding and strength of our community.

💬 Start sharing: What moments stand out to you the most? What did hiding teach you? How did you cope? And, most importantly, how have those experiences helped you grow into the person you are today?

Let’s create a safe, open, and supportive space where our voices are heard and our journeys are honored.